I am a firm believer that our adversity is our greatest teacher. Adversity is an opportunity to increase your God-given potential when a person is humble and willing to grow. I have learnt over the years it all depends on the choices you make. Rise above it or die by it. Life is more than just survival. God did not create us to just survive but thrive. In order to do so, one must be willing and submissive to do things differently.
My journey started in 2009, lying on the couch thinking to myself: life has to be better than this. I was an unemployed husband with a beautiful wife and three children. I had dreams, but it seemed like I was never going to see them come true. Prior to that moment, I had failed at my first business, we were selling a lot of our belongings to pay the bills. Our savings were gone, and at times we received help by an inspired Bishop at church.
My desperation for a better life led me to personal development. I began reading books and watching videos from authors on a variety of topics from building self-esteem to how to become successful in life.
During my 3 years of unemployment, I had moments of temporary success and I had A LOT of failures. I tried so many ideas to make money for our family and after numerous failures, I felt helpless, hopeless, and alone. I was angry at life and even God for this experience. I became depressed and thought that my family deserved a better man than I. Little did I know that I was being prepared for the work that lay ahead, to uplift and strengthen others by sharing my experience with them. My experiences of hardship and failure taught me all the lessons I needed to know to become a person of value.
When the time was right I started a business as a Personal Trainer to help individuals develop the belief system to achieve their health goals. Over the years I coached a lot of people to establish a vision for themselves, to believe in themselves and feel comfortable pushing themselves beyond their capability. As the fitness industry changed I felt that it was time to take the leap of faith and searched for another vehicle.
I began a business in direct sales and quickly climbed up the leadership ranks within the company. All of the failures and life lessons had prepared me to achieve my goals quickly. Building a business with individuals who want more from life and want to contribute more; became a passion. That led me to become a mentor; by helping my team become better leaders and business owners, by teaching them who they have to become to achieve what they want. Now I work with many individuals showing them from personal experience that “if you want things to change, you have to change.“—Jim Rohn.
However, it was short-lived, a snapshot for the (Intsa)gram, it looks good on the outside but it doesn’t tell the whole story. With high expectations to achieve my goals but now in a new location, I wasn’t as ‘successful’ I made out to be. Life fell apart again. To cut it short, in a space of two years, I had very little income, a massive amount of debt. I felt very overwhelmed, stressed and desperate. I had an experience, that changed me and woke me up from my stressed out-entitled-victim mentality.
I learnt a great deal about myself, that my behaviours we not aligned with what I wanted to experience. My expectations and my reality were out of sync and it was time to stop making it about myself and give up what I was doing and get real. It took real humility to let go of my pride, but it was the day I didn’t have to hide anymore, it was the day I let a loving Heavenly Father take over. I committed to giving away my wants to follow His plan for me and life has been blessed ever since. Through this experience, I had come to know how tough life can be but also how one can overcome their adversities as well.
Having opportunities to share what I’ve learnt, the pain and struggles I went through and how I overcame them through changing my thoughts and actions is a privilege. To connect with another human being and see their burden lifted, hope restored and a pathway out of their circumstance; is one of the most rewarding experiences ever. After all these years I have felt the urge to step out into the world and voice my story and philosophy.