How to Deal with Your Inner “Becky” w/ Tiffany Matthews
“Becky” has been causing a lot of trouble in Tiffany’s world. Becky is the name my guest Tiffany Matthews (@healthywealthywonderful) has given to her inner-critic. Whenever we’re striving to achieve our goals, Becky will try and stop you from making it happen. If you’re struggling to get Becky to shut up, then this episode is for you!
I had the great privilege of speaking to entrepreneur and health coach Tiffany Matthews. We spoke of a number of different topics and these are the top 3 that stood out for me (to get the details, you’ll have to listen to the podcast, which you can download the app on your phone or subscribe via iTunes if you want to listen on the go).
Is Your Plate Too Full?
Tiffany’s personal experience of doing too much captures similar feelings for most individuals. She said to me “the more I pile on my plate, the less space I have.” That simple description enlightened me. Think of the difference between a quality restaraunt and you local smorgasbord/takeaway. It’s quality vs. quantity. The more you do the less quality you can give, the more you wear yourself out and end up stressed and sick.
Tiffany’s solution is to set your important priorities and match incoming request to these priorities. Learning to say no is one of the most important things you can do. Saying no doesn’t make you less of a person. Set your 3 important tasks for the day and anything you get done after that is a bonus.
Who is Becky?
Becky is the label/name Tiffany has given to her inner-critic. We all have an inner-critic that loves to tell us all the reasons why we can’t do something. Tiffany noticed the pattern that people say they can’t do X because they’re Y. An example was a mum who wants to play at the beach in her togs with her kids, but can’t because she’s not at her ideal weight yet.
An actionable solution is an affirmation that mixes both a postive statement and a current “flaw”. “I am a succesful entrepreneur and I have a messy car.” Too me, it allows you to confirm that you are a success and it’s okay that you might have a thing that makes you uncomfortable going on at the same time. It shows optimism and vision with it being a mere fantasy that you’re completely perfect and that success equals zero flaws.
Going on an Information Detox
The last insight that was expressed was unfollowing anyone or anything that triggers your inner-critic. This is especially true if you’re striving to achieve a physique that you’d feel confident in. Following people or channels that make you feel insecure, doubtful and negative will only feed your inner-critic. The best detox is freeing yourself from those kinds of toxins.
What insights stood out to you in this week’s episode? I’d love to know so please leave a comment. You can connect with Tiffany on Instagram and Facebook with the handle @healthywealthywonderful and gain more insights into becoming the best version of YOU you can become.