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How to Reconnect With Yourself If You’re Feeling Mentally & Emotionally Drained

Are you often feeling overwhelmed, stressed or disconnected with yourself? Our busy lifestyle and modern challenges can often leave us mentally and emotionally drained, losing a sense of our authentic self in the process. My guest Gail has a masters in social work with honors and is an advocate for holistic approaches to wellbeing.

She has over 15 years experience in working with people who are striving to create wholeness in their lives. In this episode she draws on her wisdom as a mother, wife, educator & holistic health practitioner. Gail shares her insights into how aromatherapy can support mental and emotional wellbeing.

Listen in to learn how she supports others to feel connected, reach a higher level of awareness and thrive in their unique self.

I’d love to know what was the major takeaway from Gail’s insights? And a follow up questions is what will do differently to improve your mental and emotional wellbeing?

Please leave your comments below!


To connect with Gail Watene:

FB: @essentialwellbeingwithgailwatene

WWW: https://www.mydoterra.com/gailwatene/#/

EM: essentialwellbeingnz@gmail.com

Are You Getting in the Way of Your Own Progress?

Are you too afraid to take action because you’re afraid of what others may think? Do you talk yourself out of doing something that’s important to you because you think about all of the negative things that could happen?

If that’s you then this episode is here to give you the courage to overcome your fear!

That’s an interesting question to ask yourself, “Am I getting in the way of my own progress?” My guest Fraser Cameron dives into that question and how the majority are living with too much fear.

Fraser who is a Transformation Coach in Auckland, NZ shares in this episode how we’re held back by fear and how a person can feel fear and act in spite of it.

He shares 3 key tips that have helped his clients overcome fear, gain momentum in their life and feel confident to achieve things they thought were impossible.

You can check out Fraser’s website www.changingstride.co.nz or find him on Facebook and LinkedIn.

4 Important Things PT Clients Do That Made Them Successful

When people sign up to a gym, why do some succeed in achieving their weight goals and others don’t? Are there secrets that the achievers know that others don’t? If you’ve wondered what others are doing differently to get their results, then this episode is for you fellow gym-goer!

I interview Personal Trainer Claire Rapira (FB: Claire Rapira-Personal Training) and asked her what her successful clients do that lead them toward achieving their goals. She was happy to share what they were, and I might add that her insights into what her clients do can save you time and money paying for a gym membership.

Heck, it might even inspire you to use the gym so you can at least feel like you’re not just giving away money.

This episode covers:

  • The 4 most important components that made her clients successful.
  • The 4 most important beliefs that you need to make it on your journey.
  • The importance of connecting with the right trainer.

Learning what works for others leaves clues and patterns and this episode contains valuable patterns that can make all the difference in the success of your journey.

How to Deal with Your Inner “Becky” w/ Tiffany Matthews

“Becky” has been causing a lot of trouble in Tiffany’s world. Becky is the name my guest Tiffany Matthews (@healthywealthywonderful) has given to her inner-critic. Whenever we’re striving to achieve our goals, Becky will try and stop you from making it happen. If you’re struggling to get Becky to shut up, then this episode is for you!

I had the great privilege of speaking to entrepreneur and health coach Tiffany Matthews. We spoke of a number of different topics and these are the top 3 that stood out for me (to get the details, you’ll have to listen to the podcast, which you can download the app on your phone or subscribe via iTunes if you want to listen on the go).

Is Your Plate Too Full?

Tiffany’s personal experience of doing too much captures similar feelings for most individuals. She said to me “the more I pile on my plate, the less space I have.” That simple description enlightened me. Think of the difference between a quality restaraunt and you local smorgasbord/takeaway. It’s quality vs. quantity. The more you do the less quality you can give, the more you wear yourself out and end up stressed and sick.

Tiffany’s solution is to set your important priorities and match incoming request to these priorities. Learning to say no is one of the most important things you can do. Saying no doesn’t make you less of a person. Set your 3 important tasks for the day and anything you get done after that is a bonus.

Who is Becky?

Becky is the label/name Tiffany has given to her inner-critic. We all have an inner-critic that loves to tell us all the reasons why we can’t do something. Tiffany noticed the pattern that people say they can’t do X because they’re Y. An example was a mum who wants to play at the beach in her togs with her kids, but can’t because she’s not at her ideal weight yet.

An actionable solution is an affirmation that mixes both a postive statement and a current “flaw”. “I am a succesful entrepreneur and I have a messy car.” Too me, it allows you to confirm that you are a success and it’s okay that you might have a thing that makes you uncomfortable going on at the same time. It shows optimism and vision with it being a mere fantasy that you’re completely perfect and that success equals zero flaws.

Going on an Information Detox

The last insight that was expressed was unfollowing anyone or anything that triggers your inner-critic. This is especially true if you’re striving to achieve a physique that you’d feel confident in. Following people or channels that make you feel insecure, doubtful and negative will only feed your inner-critic. The best detox is freeing yourself from those kinds of toxins.


What insights stood out to you in this week’s episode? I’d love to know so please leave a comment. You can connect with Tiffany on Instagram and Facebook with the handle @healthywealthywonderful and gain more insights into becoming the best version of YOU you can become.


The Mindset You Need to Change Your Body w/ Alee Baytan

If you’re trying to figure out how to stop comparing yourself to others during your weight loss journey and stay focused, this post is for you.

I had the priviledge of interviewing Entreprenuer, Beachbody Master Trainer, Social Media Dynamite, Mother of 2 (currently 31 weeks with her second child), Alee Baytan (@domoredaily). She’s been through the challenges that come from dealing with her body image in a fitness environment.

She shares how personal development is the key to her transformation. Reading or listening to people who kept her focused on her goals, changed the way she thought about her limiting beliefs and pushed her to grow was the difference between success and failure.

Alee share a lot of insights like “every woman should embrace their OWN journey”, celebrating all the small victories through to her mental preparation to keep the focus on what she needs to stay on track. I love two of her instagram post and had a chance to have her explain it in more detail. “Stop fighting yourself and start fighting for yourself” and “We won’t be distracted by comparison if we’re captivated by purpose”.

I’m not going to giveaway all of what she’s shared, listen/download the podcast and listen. I’d love to know what stood out to you during my interview with Alee? Share your thoughts below in the comment section.

Have a great day!


5 Major Questions That Can Change Your Life Now!

Is life taking a funny turn and you feel you’re on the wrong path? Or do you wake up one day and wonder how did I get here? These 5 questions will help you get back on track!

Life can really take us on a ride. Well, I suppose we often choose the paths that lead us towards things we want or don’t want in life. However, most daily decisions are small and may seem insignificant. The thing to consider is that small decisions can compound and without realising it, you could be stranded on a road that’s not where you want to be.

These turn off’s apply to every aspect of our life and these 5 questions can help you get those areas back in alignment again.

1. What will I embrace?

We’re constantly surrounded by information that is indirectly and directly influencing our thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. From the amount of time you spend on social media, the friends you associate with, to the music you listen to, it will have a positive or negative influence on the way you live your life.

This question will help you consider what kind of influence and information do you want to absorb and surround yourself with? Is it uplifting, inspiring, wholesome or negative, destructive, cynical? It’s a great question to ask because it can help you assess whether you have any influences that need to get in or out of your life.

2. What will I believe?

As you know, our beliefs drive our actions. If the results your experiencing of late aren’t what you want, there will be a created belief that’s driving that outcome. This questions is your opportunity to define what it is that you what to happen so you can focus your energies into making it into a belief.

3. What will I say?

Self-talk has a major effect on what we believe, how we view ourselves and our life experience. Do you catch yourself saying negative things about yourself? If you drop something, have you said out loud “Stupid idiot!”? We’ve all done it from time to time. The more we speak in that manner about ourselves, the more we make it come true. This question will help you consider if the way you speak to yourself or to others is how you wish to be remembered, treated and influenced.

4. What will I let go?

We all have events in our lives or habits that are holding us back from really experiencing joy and happiness. Yet, we tend to hold on to these experiences and drag it where ever we go. As difficult as it maybe, to let go of things that keep you unhappy shows that you’re no longer give that experience permission to exercise power over you. Your ability to let go shows strength in your character and you’re retaking that power back.

Whatever needs to change, let go, forgive or made amends to anything that weighs you down is worth the effort to secure a future of freedom and joy.

5. What will be my intention?

Our actions are driving by the power of our intention. Have you ever met someone who acts like you’re friends but you tell it’s all fake? The intention behind the behaviours gives it away right? However, when we do things in life, what power drives it? Love or hate? Fear or courage? Excitement or boredom? Each positive or negative intention will influence the outcome of your actions.

If you’re dieting out of fear or shame, how long do you think that’s going to last? If it’s driven because you love how you feel inside or you enjoy the extra energy, health benefits etc. You’ll stick to it for a longer period of time and hopefully for the rest of your life.


These questions are designed to help you assess where you are, where you want to go, and what you can change to head in the right direction. It’s a great self-assessment tool in moments of reflection to make sure you’re happy with the path you’re on. My recommendation is to answer these questions with compassion and patience. It’s not scolding session, it’s an insightful and revelatory experience. By asking the right questions, you’ll receive the right answers.

Question: Which question stood out to you and what was the first answer that came to you? Leave your comments below or email aaron@aaronosman.com 

What You Can Do When Life is Suffocating Your Happiness

If you’re having one of those moments where you feel the life is suffocating the happiness out of you, then you’ve come to the right place!

I had a conversation with a friend who expressed how stressed out life has been and sadly how changing it wasn’t an option. I shared from personal experience 3 principles, that helped me break free from my own personal dungeon. Without putting everything into context, I’m going to jump straight into it.

1. Get the Stress Out of Your Head

I asked my friend to try this simple exercise. Get a sheet of paper and draw a line in the middle of it. Write on the left column My problem(s), and on the right Possible Solutions. List what is going on in your life that is causing you to feel stressed or perplexed. On the right side consider any and all possible solutions that you can do to resolve the issue.

I wish to point out is that it doesn’t really matter what those answers are. They can be distant answers, as in, you’ll need to take multiple steps to get to that point or they could be, small answers like talk to person who bothers me at work. The process of it will help you shift your thinking from dwelling in stress to resolving it. When you’ve got your possible solutions down on your paper, do the next step.

2. Decide and Act

The key to exiting the suffocation of life is making decisions and acting. Nothing changes unless you change, and change doesn’t happen unless you decide to do something and follow through. The reason why I have you write down possible solutions is so you can decide to act. As you take small steps on a consistent basis, the more momentum you will gain.

Second, is that your consistent action will either attract opportunities to secure your desired outcome or through your action, you will create opportunities. The reason why decision-making and action is the key, is because we will spend all our energy thinking, reliving, expanding our stress in our head, never actually doing anything about it, just torturing ourselves with it. Action releases the choke hold that engulfed stress grasps.

3. Respect the Law of Gestation

What in the doo-dacky is that? Everything has a divine time appointed for its overall development. Trees, fruit, vegetables etc each have their own time frame for growth and outcome. You can’t mess with it. Yes you can add special sauce to the soil and provide the optimal environment. It will help a little but not remove that divine time line.

My point? Change takes time, results take time. You can’t plant a seed in the ground and rip it out one week later demanding fruit! I urge you to remove your timetable from the natural course of things. It will only make you frustrated. Keep moving and doing what you can to cause change to take place and in due time, you will see the fruit of your work.

Believe that you can change and that life can change for you. You are more than capable of beating life’s challenges.

I love to you what you think, please leave a comment below and share what decisions you’re going to make to change your life for the better.


3 Tips to Make You Stick to Your Program

We’ve all had those moments when we lose momentum in our fitness journey. For whatever reason you struggle to keep going and find the motivation to keep working towards your goal.

I’m sharing 3 tips that will help you stay consistent with your program. If you follow these tips you can beat the plateau blues and turn a struggle into a joyful experience.

Love the Process

Result is a byproduct of executing the process in the right order. Take baking a muffin for example. If you follow the recipe you’ll get a muffin at the end. Obsessing about end result without focusing on process causes frustration and disappointment. The difference between someone who bakes really well and one who doesn’t is the love they have for the process.

The only way I’ve found that helps a person love the process is to train, eat and live the way that brings them joy. Whether it’s martial arts or yoga 2-3 times a week, paid or home cooked meals that nutrient dense and rich with flavor, if a process that is filled with things you enjoy will make it easier to stick with it long term.

Q: What can you add or replace in your journey to make it more enjoyable?

Measure Your Performance

It’s important to track one or two key areas that you wish to focus on. If you’re on a weight loss journey you’ll naturally gravitate toward the scales as a measurement. You may wish to consider something a little more concrete like inches off your waist and consistency in attending the gym or class each week.

For example, if you were to mark off the successful days you followed your nutrition plan on a calendar, how motivating would it be to see clean eating for 25 days in a row? 35 days, 60 days? Even if there are a few days where you had a day off or choose to do something different, would you be amazed at what you’ve accomplished.

Other areas you may consider to measure is strength, endurance, size, time/speed, consistency and so on. Only measure one or two things that are important for you at this stage of your journey.

Q: What one or two things will you measure? How will you measure it and how often?

Let Go of Expectations

You’re taught to keep your goals in front of you always, and focus on them with all your energy and strength. That is true. However, you must let go of how you think the journey should be for you to achieve your goal. This is the error people fall into. They expect the journey to be linear, easy, and within their own timeline. Just like baking, you have to give the process time to develop into a result.

You can’t plant a seed and rip it out one week later demanding fruit! Don’t concern yourself with how you will get to the end, trust the process, be patient and focus on the work that needs to be done today! Not tomorrow, not yesterday, concentrate your energy and effort on today. That’s the only guarantee you have in ensure success tomorrow.

Q: What expectations do you have that you’re willing to let go?

I love to know what you think and what part of today’s blog post you are going to apply or has helped you see things differently. Please comment below and share with someone that’s on the journey with you.

Have a great day!


Why Isn’t Mainstream Health & Fitness Focusing on This? w/ Wiremu Matthews

In part 2 of our discussion, Wiremu Matthews shares why stress is the number one killer in our attempt to achieve an optimal state of wellbeing and health.

Emotional stress is the biggest hurdle in achieving balance and Wiremu shares how you can release those emotions and feel peaceful, calm and free.

With all the information out there, it seems that we’re lacking in dealing with emotional stress. Health and is saturated in nutrition and exercise advice with a glossy brush over on stress and dealing with stored emotions not yet expressed.

If you didn’t listen to part 1, I encourage you to check that out as well.


How to Release Unresolved Emotions w/ Wiremu Matthews

Did you know that emotions hold your beliefs, behaviours and results you get? And that any unwanted result (like a physical symptom) that is resurfacing over and over is connected with an unresolved emotion?

I had former CEO of the Maori Pharmacist Association and Personal Performance Facilitator Wiremu Matthews, join me in the studio and share how unresolved emotions hold you back from truly making last changes in your health and wellbeing.

He shares his insights into how emotion not expressed builds and compounds over time and attracts like situations that surface those emotions.

He also shares is process into how he helps his clients release those limiting beliefs so they can finally achieve the goals they want.

This is a podcast episode you need to listen too. He’s got a lot of information that will change the way you think about your road to health and happiness.

You can connect with Wiremu @ www.wiremumatthews.com and on his Facebook page @wholefamlyjourney.